Thursday, October 15, 2009

Another Productive Day



Early evening walks just aren't the same when they require a heavy coat, but I was determined to make the most of my 'free' hour between 5-6pm to get the kids outdoors (and acclimated to our weather change). I cooked white chili (chicken chili) while the twins napped, and then threw it in a crockpot to keep it warm until dinner time, so I had one of those blissful pre-dinner hours where I could hang out with the kids and enjoy them (versus shooing them away from the kitchen while I try to cook). During our outdoors time, we hunted for red and yellow leaves, neighborhood dogs, and played with our own pumpkins.

I had one of those amazingly productive days due to work being a little slower than normal ... meaning, I got a lot of things done around the house. In addition to the early dinner prep, I got laundry washed and hung, my cookbook area organized, dishwasher emptied, and the house tidied this afternoon. This morning while Claire was at preschool the twins and I checked out cakes at Sam's Club and went to the ice skating rink to sign up Claire for 9 weeks of lessons. I took all the girls to Mr. Goodcents for lunch, and we made a quick grocery run for a box of graham cookies and then we had our usual fun at the pet store next to Mr. Goodcents. It was a good day!

The only negativity hanging over my head today is the news that my work group is getting cut by roughly 25% at the end of this month. This applies to the larger group under my VP, which has close to 400 people. It's a big cut, but all in all I'm taking it in stride like the last time we went through this. Worrying won't change my fate, so why waste the energy on worrying?

Tuesday, October 13, 2009

Calm In The Household

For a house with three young kids, we've stayed pretty calm the last few days. The good moods from this weekend have continued and the kids have been easily entertained. I'm hoping this new trend will continue (other than during the sick weeks to come this winter, when I fully expect horrid behavior). Today, for example, the most difficult stretch of the day (the late afternoon push to dinner time) was, for the most part, a breeze to manage. The girls all played nicely together (well, Lily required some coaching on not crying over every slight, but once she settled down, all was good). While I cooked dinner during this typically stressful time, the girls played "kitchen" in the basement and then moved themselves up to Claire's bedroom to look at books. I checked on them intermittently, but they did just fine without me. I can see why people say that having more than one child can be easier than just having one. When they play together nicely, the pressure on me is reduced significantly. I just wish I could minimize the sibling rivalry.

But let's talk about this dinner I slaved over while the kids played nicely. I made sweet potato casserole (complete with the brown sugar topping, which the kids should like), pork chops in a light white wine and cream sauce (ok, that's a little adult centered, I know), and corn. The kids all rejected it, other than eating a few bites of the corn. *Sigh*. The food battle continues to rage in my household, with the biggest battle being in my head: do I give up cooking "adult" food I enjoy and work toward cooking "kid style foods", or do I cook what I want to eat and either short-order cook (which I swore I wouldn't do) for the kids or let them starve each night? Cooking used to be one of my favorite hobbies. Hobby! Ha - I laugh at the thought now. It's my daily drudgery, dealing with picky eaters and a spouse with a limited range himself. On a weekly basis, I do the meal planning, grocery shopping, and the cooking. My "break" is a once or twice a week take-out dinner or Kyle grilling on a Sunday night. But roughly five nights a week, week after week after week, I am at the kitchen helm, debating what food I'd find reasonably appealing that maybe the kids would eat too. Most nights feel like a failure to me. And for a perfectionist, daily failure is incredibly unpleasant.

So for a while now, I've debated doing the "truly transparent", real life, what-we-had-for-dinner-and-was-it-successful report. We all want to know how other people live, how other families handle the daily dinner routine, so I might do a post to summarize our dinners for a week in the household, or find a way to post it on the side of the blog. Let me think through the concept, and you might just see something soon on this subject. Then you'll know the answers - do I rely on pre-prepared foods? Do I cook from scratch? Do I do more take-out than I own up to? If I were to summarize the week-by-week plan around here, I know that I usually do a great job of meal planning for one week (and shopping for the week in advance), and then the next week, I can't pull it off again. So I have one well-executed week, then a bad week, then a well-executed week, and so on. It's a balance I've come to accept.

I just can't seem to accept eating kid food for the next 10-15 years until my kids' tastes mature.

Sunday, October 11, 2009

Baby It's Cold Outside

I knew we'd pay for our mild summer. Winter has visited early, and I'm not liking it. Nor are the kids. Temperatures hovered in the 40s all weekend, so we got out to stores and restaurants on a limited basis, but certainly I attempted nothing outdoors with the kids. I am not meant to live in the Heartland - I should live elsewhere where I can enjoy the outdoors more months of the year than Kansas makes possible. I had a mild case of cabin fever already on my first cooped up winter-like weekend. Blah. It didn't help that Kyle worked 1 1/2 days this weekend (all Saturday, half of Sunday), which meant my "allowable" activities were a bit stunted by his absence. Instead of errands and fun while the twins napped, I cleaned house, did laundry, and organized a few areas - not exactly my idea of a banner weekend.

But still, I eked out a reasonable weekend nevertheless. The kids were in great moods (despite the lingering head cold/cough sickness everyone got last week) and the twins particularly are beginning to fall in line with our regular patterns and rules and seem comfortable in our daily routine. The only rough patches we have are at the "changing of the guard" moments when Kyle returns home and I leave or vice versa - the change in parenting styles is always a shock to all three kids.

Tonight I watched the twins play together while Kyle and Claire ran to Home Depot, and it was an absolute joy to watch them interact. Molly (the dominant twin) "directed" the play style, but Lily followed the directions (mostly) and the girls laughed and screeched and didn't pay one bit of attention to me. I had a contented moment, one brief thought that maybe there could be a light at the end of the tunnel. And then I remembered that someday I'll have three teen aged girls and I laughed at my naivete. Ah well, at least I am seeing some benefit to twins at the moment - I know I never stated that the last two years.

The girls all wore their "hot chocolate" shirts today, which I thought was fitting given the weather outside ...



... but I hope that we have a few days soon where outside play becomes possible again!

Friday, October 9, 2009

Pumpkins and BFFs


Claire's preschool had the annual pumpkin patch field trip this morning. The weather did not cooperate. It was in the mid 40s, cloudy, and very blustery, so we adults suffered through the weather while the kids seemed (mostly) oblivious to the bone-chilling cold. The field was also a mud pit because of our all-day rain yesterday. I intended to take the twins, but once I walked outside this morning, I knew it would be an awful idea to drag them along. Molly would have cried the entire time, making it an absolutely miserable morning. So at the last minute, after some, uh, "negotiation", Kyle agreed to stay home with the twins.

Claire and BFF Lauren stayed joined at the hip through all the different play areas of the pumpkin patch. Here are my favorite photos from the morning ...






... and now, I'm happy to be back in the warmth of my home. Brrrrrrr. I guess I need to toughen up with winter nearly here.

Tuesday, October 6, 2009

A Time To Explore






11-hour day alone with the kids (Kyle home late tonight): check
complete my "real" (paid) work: check
wash and hang all the family's laundry: check
do preschool pick up: check
get the kids outdoors to enjoy the nice weather: check
finish swapping kids' closets from summer to winter clothes: check
cook and clean up dinner: check
make a quick Kohl's and Walmart trip after kids in bed: check
blog: check

I should feel a great sense of accomplishment, but I'm struggling to feel that ... one, because I'm getting Claire's head cold and my energy level is low (despite my output today which would indicate otherwise); and two, because getting that much done [see list above] usually means the kids stay a little bored all day which makes me feel like a failure. At least we got 45 minutes outside today, where I snapped a few photos of the girls. Molly was walking around with the binoculars "exploring" hence the funny photos. For my part, I'd like to explore ways to ditch the mom guilt when I don't feel like I've entertained my kids well all day.

Sunday, October 4, 2009

A Whole Lot of Nothing

This weekend was one of those that felt disjointed, blah, bland ... nothing quite worked out the way it was supposed to. I do not feel I got any great kid time, yet I didn't get any "me" time or good adult time either.

Claire came down with a head cold as of today, and the twins had both Kyle and me up from 2ish to 4:30am last night, so we're all suffering today (I assume the twins will get their head colds tomorrow). We got to see Papa for lunch today, and Claire and I attended the Louisburg Cider Mill Festival yesterday afternoon and had some fun errand time today. But it never coalesced into a really fun weekend, and my energy level is incredibly low.

I could barely bring myself to take any good photos this weekend, so here's all I could muster. Here's Claire at the Cider Mill festival yesterday ...



... and Claire trying her hand for the first time at putting golf balls (at the sporting goods store during errands today) ...



... and Claire having a decadent snack of malt balls and hot chocolate this afternoon (note the super fake cheesy smile she gave me) ...



... and with that, the weekend has come to a close. I hope everyone sleeps through the night tonight, and I hope this week provides a little more satisfaction than last week.

Friday, October 2, 2009

TGIF

I was overjoyed by the arrival of Friday today. It's been a busy, long week - partially because of work, partially because my social calendar had me staying out a bit too late one night this week. Additionally, since the Tuesday doctor's appointment, Molly has stayed pretty cranky all week (and feels a little warm) so I don't know if that flu mist caused a strong immune system response or if the two-year molars are causing the issue, but she has worn me down.

Today I took it easy because I knew my work schedule would accommodate me slacking off a little. The kids and I had lunch together and we went shopping at the Dollar Store for fun. Molly never napped but Lily took a long one, so I finally woke up Lily and took all three kids to Michael's for birthday party favors and the "Halloween game" I'm responsible for at Claire's preschool party (what the heck is a Halloween game?). The kids thought the crafts store was fantastic and I think we spent a full hour hanging out there. After Michael's, we had pizza for dinner (Kyle joined up with us at that point), bought supplies at Sam's Club, and got back home just in time for the twins' bed time. Claire fell asleep in the hallway tonight, and worried me by mentioning a sore throat. Hmmmm, is it time for our first round of sickness? Or is it just the weather change? We're now in the low 60s during the day already.

The best moment of the week was when Molly and I were sharing a quiet moment on the bed together, and she turned to me and said, "Momma, me happy". Awwwww. All around, I love everything about that statement - from the 2-year-old language skills to the idea that she can verbalize her feelings. I was also pleased to see that Lily worked really hard this week to talk, and at times refused to let her two dominant sisters overpower her verbally. Go Lily!

It's been a bad week for two year olds in the KC area. One was killed in a car accident earlier this week (he was not in a carseat), one had his legs run over by an SUV in a parking lot, and one girl (who my colleague knows) is fighting for her life at Children's Mercy after a fence fell on her and cracked her skull in a bunch of places causing brain bleeds. Two year olds are known for their fearlessness, their cluelessness about everyday dangers, and I know they are vulnerable. I'm a safety nut, but even so something could happen to one of my girls too. With all the tragedies I saw on the news this week, I felt the need to hug the twins just a little tighter. My heart goes out to the families of the other two year olds hurt this week.